This site is where Positivity meets Beauty – beauty both in the inside and the outside. It is a special site to me because it combines my love for website work, beauty and cosmetics with the incredibly special subject matter of Positivity. Being a mom to my two little girls and my little boy, it also goes without saying that positivity and self-care are on the forefront of my mind in raising them. They are full of life and I want to see them stay that way through adulthood; trusting themselves, achieving their dreams and finding peace and joy in each day. I see them go about their little lives right now shining their bright lights into the world and I love to see it. I want nothing more than to see them continue to shine their light bright as they grow!
More About Me Personally…
Given my free-spirited, creative soul, it is a wonder to me how I ever ended up in law school. But somehow, someway I did and as a young adult began my career as a trial attorney in Durham County, North Carolina. On a side, but related note, how a Long Island, New York girl ended up in North Carolina, is also a wonder to me, but it is, nevertheless a beautiful place to live (just without the availability of so much amazing food).
Shortly into my career as an attorney I was blessed with my first baby girl and changed careers to work with my then-doctor-husband, operating a medical clinic. While I did find it difficult to work with people with health problems, just as I have found it difficult to work with people with legal problems, in my new work, I found I could let my creativity flow as I was in charge of just about everything, but the doctoring. I enjoyed it and I was able to have a balance between mothering and working.
It was shortly after the birth of my second baby girl that my dear best friend was brutally murdered in her home one Fall night. During the weeks, months and years after she died I felt the world was turned upside down. Everything I thought was the truth seemed to no longer be; uncertainty and confusion ruled and my mind constantly raced with so many “why” questions. Michelle’s death and the awful nature of it filled my every thought.
The blessing for me personally is that during that time that I was able to reflect on my own life and see that I had not been living it in a way where I was true to my own values and beliefs. I wanted more. I wanted to feel happy – like the real kind of happy that I now refer to as “joy” – the kind that is there every day and that cannot be drowned by a bad situation. This self-reflection gave me the courage to end a marriage with a man I a was not compatible with and so also began my journey into a new career. After my work at the medical practice I realized I was quite good at marketing and I began a new phase of my career doing online marketing work for myself and others. I discovered my passion lies in creativity. Likewise, I realized that my days are not personally fulfilled in working with people on their legal or health problems as I had been doing previously, but rather, in working in a creative role and especially with women in the areas of self-worth and self-care.
Hence, in addition to my work online, I started a journey back to school to obtain a Cosmetology license. For me, to truly work with my passions of helping women feel their best, both on the inside and outside is fulfillment beyond measure. For the first time in my life I am living true to what I value and what I love and each day is filled with that gift.
The Birth of Positivity Toolbox…
Not too long ago, after four and a half years the trial began of Michelle’s killer, who was her husband at the time of her death. I sat in the trial each day over the course of almost a month. During this time I was brought to a place of utter sadness. Listening to witness after witness was agonizing. During the evenings, I sought respite in something positive to work on to take my mind away from the days. That is when the Positivity Toolbox Facebook Page was spawned – I first created the Positivity Toolbox Facebook Page and after watching the massive interest and interaction on the page, I subsequently created the Positivity Toolbox Website.
Having become a positive-minded woman after a long period of sadness after Michelle’s death, I felt I had much to contribute to a positive forum, such as Positivity Toolbox, and felt confident as the creator of such a place. I was overwhelmed (in a positive way) to watch the page grow so quickly; one night, by 1000 people! It kept me going during the time of the trial. It was my sanctuary and port in the storm. I never mentioned the trial on that page, but found immense encouragement during that time in the words of the fans who posted there. Little did they know the positive impact they were having on me.
The Birth of Positively Beautiful…
After some time working on Positivity Toolbox and seeing the topics that generate the most interest, I recently created Positively Beautiful; an amalgamation between Positivity and Inner and Outer Beauty. I see that my readers are most interested in topics related to the two and the need for such a place for both women and men to come to to aid in their self-care and self-growth.
We all find positivity and beauty in a variety of ways. Some ways are very basic. For example, feeling good when we look in the mirror because our skin is clear, knowing that our makeup looks fresh throughout the day or that our fingernails are manicured. Some ways are bigger. For example, some people take trips across the world aiding the impoverished. Some solve major problems in the world, like economic crisis or treatment for disease.
From the fresh pedicure to fresh food provided to a child who has gone without, all are important, beautiful and positive ways of seeking overall wellbeing for ourselves and for the world. This website encompasses it all. I sincerely hope you enjoy what you find here. My heart goes into each word. I welcome comments. Visit often!
One last thing….
I would be totally remiss if I didn’t mention that I am also blessed beyond anything I could have ever imagined to have an amazing partner, Julian Kaufmann, the love of my life, who has not only taught me the definition of a good man but also, the definition of love. I respect and admire Julian. In all my endeavors, both big and small, he gives me his absolute enthusiasm and support. He is a tower of strength, wildly intelligent and a lover of life. Not a day goes by that I cease to be amazed by him and his compassion towards the world.
This site and all my sites are dedicated to the loving memory of Michelle. I still hear her voice from time-to-time and she sets me straight on my tough days. May her memory live forever in all that is peaceful and beautiful. May no human ever endure what she went through, and may every woman and man have their own version of Michelle’s graceful spirit inside. May every person hear that inner whisper that tells them they are wonderful and find confidence to stand up for themselves. May every person love even half as much she loved.
If you like Positively Beautiful, here are some of my other sites and pages you will enjoy: